First let me start of by saying I have no problem being single It is not so bad I do what I want
when I want and in general life is OK ,not as exciting as I would like it to be but I get by.
On the other hand I wouldn't mind having someone else around to talk to and share stuff
with. It would be nice.
I was just talking about the subject of dating and online dating websites today with my friend
We were at the very sexy pick-up place know as Chuck e cheese
where all the sexy single guys are at..lol
No seriously laylaboo and her bestie wanted to go so we met up there.
But anyway we were talking about how sucky the sites are and how hard it is to be a single
Mom and try to date again.
I mean lately the only action I have been getting is very scary looks from high school boys
Whom look at me like a MILF which is not happening ever! and the 18 and over crowd who
flirt with me which is flattering until they ask me which high school I graduated from um
Really?? do I look that young now I'm concerned. I mean is it to much to ask to find a
Good man ? apparently now days it is as I learned the hard way.
I decide to make a profile on a dating site called ZOOSK'S corny name I know but I gave it a
try. Let me start off by saying that I really thought it was going to be easier to fill out a
profile first I had to make a user name sounds easy right? wrong. it had to grab your attention
But not be anything to slutty, sexy, suggestive or babyish. I had no idea what I was doing
I finally settled on a name. then I had to answer dumb questions and by dumb I mean
5TH grade style questions if you were a color you would be what color and why? Um was the
Color I was picking really going to give a guy insight into who I was? OK whatever I put purple
And said because it commands attention O shit now I sound bossy and into to myself super .
Whatever I scan to the next question and burst out laughing It says" if you were invisible for
The day what would you do ?
I type I would spy on my friends and famous people to see what they
Really do and maybe scare some people who have not been nice to me. I look over my question
Well I don't know what a guy is suppose to find out about me with that unless he would assume
I am nosy and a little mean. but of course the last question was really how a guy was going to
figure out if he wanted to date you. The question was if the last movie you watched was to be
What you had to relive would you be screwed? Well that depends because the last movie I
Watched was 21and over so apparently I would have one hell of a night and a lot of fun so nah
I'm good. OK so obviously this question would let a guy know what kind of movies your into
The rest of the profile was simple stuff my name ,age, things interesting about me, my likes and
Dislikes and so on. but then came that one part that I really hated my opening line the big
Headline that either gets guys to stop and read your profile or makes them turn and run.
I sat staring blankly at the computer screen for hours just trying to come up with something
I didn't want to put anything suggesting I was a single mom. Nothing to sexy, I needed that
Something that made you stop and say wow that is a cool chick. maybe a quote? a line from a
Movie? A saying? or go mysterious and put a one liner that makes you wonder?
I decide to go with save the flowers all I need is you outside my window with a
Boom box and my favorite song blaring. OK a bit cheesy? yeah I know but I am the biggest 80's
Teen movie freak no lie!! so why not envision a moment like that.
Then came the worst person ever the profile picture And for those of you who have already
Noticed I do not like profile pics that is why I do not have one on here either. It's not like I
Think I am hideous or anything but I certainly don't think I am all that and besides I really
Don't like taking pictures. I hate it. I knew I had to post a picture of myself so I had laylaboo
Take a photo of me I was not happy about it but I am smiling and look OK so I will just deal
With it. finally I hit enter and just sit in silence and wait hoping someone would find me
Interesting within 15 minutes of sheer terror I had response from old creepy men who had a lot
Of money and would take care of me if I took care of them this made me gag. even worse was
the hornier young guys who wanted to know if I had naked pictures and if I wanted to sexted.
Hmm I was starting to see that romance and just a simple hi how are you were apparently old fashion?
I kid you not I felt like a porn star must feel when she goes out in public like a piece of meat
or just that I was only there for sex. It really made me mad. I decide to try elsewhere I had
Many choices there was websites I could pay to browse photos and find love but not my thing,
single parents websites but I really don't want to deal with other people children I can go to
Work for that. there was Christian dating websites where god brings you together...Hmm
Has god read some of these ads because I think he would not approve. I was going to
Give up and go the desperate route and post a ad on craigslist but the thought of all the serial
Killers and psychos out there reading my ad put a stop to that thought. it was getting late and
I was pretty tired of searching dating websites besides pretty much all the profiles should of
Said just looking for a fast fuck or even better if your a slut I 'm your man. I have gotten some
wired emails from some guys,I got a email from lationboy66 who seemed innocent enough at
first but then wanted to know if before we met he could get selfies of every inch of my body to
Make sure I looked in top shape before we went out on a date. Next please. even better was the
email from sunsets76 who just wanted to clarify how long as a single mom had I gone without
Sex Wow how's that for a charming getting to know you question. O but the one that takes the
cake is urstruly2020 yep he was a real class act he wanted to know when we went on a date if I
would be down to go watch girls mud wrestling and after that we hit up a 420 foam party.
Will what girl wouldn't want that date dammit!! yeah I told him where he could go.
And as you could imagine I was done by this point and frustrated and really just wishing for a
cheesy Disney prince charming. I still have my profile up and I have yet to meet up with any
guys but I am hopeful I think that there is a decent guy out there. but before I go on a date I
Feel like I should come with a disclaimer and the first rule would be I am not inviting you to
Stay over I have a daughter and I am not about to put her in danger and besides that I am not
A one night stand girl you wanna get it I going to make you work to get it because I have been
Waiting a long time and you need to prove your worth me giving it up to. Second I have a child
to raise so she comes always first then you not the other way around. I don't need you to be a
Father she has one, I don't need you to take care of me I do that all by myself, I don't need your
Money have my own may not be a lot but I somehow manage. I don't need you to assume
Because I am a single mom I am sad and lonely and please please for the love god do not
assume I need sex and you are the answer to my prayers because 1. they make all kinds
Of cool sex toys now days and really If I was that damn horny and desperate I am pretty sure I
could find a willing guy to have sex with, But since I have morals and class I don't.
Now that we have all that out of the way you can now proceed to ask me on a date.
But back to reality I am actually not ready to date I mean I have not dated in so long I am
Afraid I have forgotten how to even act ,what to do and so on. The whole thought of dating
Really makes me nervous and how the hell do I even answer the question"so tell me about
Yourself? You mean the person I am when I am not being a single mom? Hmm I honestly
Don't remember her pretty much everything centers around my daughter.
How about the person I was when before my husband cheated? I don't like her very much she
Was a coward and the life was being sucked out of her.
After my husband cheated on me? I like that girl she is kick ass and tougher than she thought.
And what do I say to the dread Question What do you do for fun? Um does birthday parties
And going to chuck e cheese count? O that is really a sad answer I need to work on that.
Great I sucked at answering questions . Man I needed a cheat sheet with me so someone could
Write down clever witty things for me to say. I am a mess and I have not even been on a date
Yet. I am not going to give up I have faith that I will find someone when the time is right.
I just hope it is before I am old and lonely and turn into the crazy dog lady No cats for me!!
So friends have any of you tried online dating? and if your a single mom have you found it is
harder to get back into dating? Have you ever got a crazy email? please feel free to share
With me or just comment. And as always thank you reading blog I appreciate it!!
It gives me hope that someone out there is reading what I blog and cares.
.
when I want and in general life is OK ,not as exciting as I would like it to be but I get by.
On the other hand I wouldn't mind having someone else around to talk to and share stuff
with. It would be nice.
I was just talking about the subject of dating and online dating websites today with my friend
We were at the very sexy pick-up place know as Chuck e cheese
where all the sexy single guys are at..lol
No seriously laylaboo and her bestie wanted to go so we met up there.
But anyway we were talking about how sucky the sites are and how hard it is to be a single
Mom and try to date again.
I mean lately the only action I have been getting is very scary looks from high school boys
Whom look at me like a MILF which is not happening ever! and the 18 and over crowd who
flirt with me which is flattering until they ask me which high school I graduated from um
Really?? do I look that young now I'm concerned. I mean is it to much to ask to find a
Good man ? apparently now days it is as I learned the hard way.
I decide to make a profile on a dating site called ZOOSK'S corny name I know but I gave it a
try. Let me start off by saying that I really thought it was going to be easier to fill out a
profile first I had to make a user name sounds easy right? wrong. it had to grab your attention
But not be anything to slutty, sexy, suggestive or babyish. I had no idea what I was doing
I finally settled on a name. then I had to answer dumb questions and by dumb I mean
5TH grade style questions if you were a color you would be what color and why? Um was the
Color I was picking really going to give a guy insight into who I was? OK whatever I put purple
And said because it commands attention O shit now I sound bossy and into to myself super .
Whatever I scan to the next question and burst out laughing It says" if you were invisible for
The day what would you do ?
I type I would spy on my friends and famous people to see what they
Really do and maybe scare some people who have not been nice to me. I look over my question
Well I don't know what a guy is suppose to find out about me with that unless he would assume
I am nosy and a little mean. but of course the last question was really how a guy was going to
figure out if he wanted to date you. The question was if the last movie you watched was to be
What you had to relive would you be screwed? Well that depends because the last movie I
Watched was 21and over so apparently I would have one hell of a night and a lot of fun so nah
I'm good. OK so obviously this question would let a guy know what kind of movies your into
The rest of the profile was simple stuff my name ,age, things interesting about me, my likes and
Dislikes and so on. but then came that one part that I really hated my opening line the big
Headline that either gets guys to stop and read your profile or makes them turn and run.
I sat staring blankly at the computer screen for hours just trying to come up with something
I didn't want to put anything suggesting I was a single mom. Nothing to sexy, I needed that
Something that made you stop and say wow that is a cool chick. maybe a quote? a line from a
Movie? A saying? or go mysterious and put a one liner that makes you wonder?
I decide to go with save the flowers all I need is you outside my window with a
Boom box and my favorite song blaring. OK a bit cheesy? yeah I know but I am the biggest 80's
Teen movie freak no lie!! so why not envision a moment like that.
Then came the worst person ever the profile picture And for those of you who have already
Noticed I do not like profile pics that is why I do not have one on here either. It's not like I
Think I am hideous or anything but I certainly don't think I am all that and besides I really
Don't like taking pictures. I hate it. I knew I had to post a picture of myself so I had laylaboo
Take a photo of me I was not happy about it but I am smiling and look OK so I will just deal
With it. finally I hit enter and just sit in silence and wait hoping someone would find me
Interesting within 15 minutes of sheer terror I had response from old creepy men who had a lot
Of money and would take care of me if I took care of them this made me gag. even worse was
the hornier young guys who wanted to know if I had naked pictures and if I wanted to sexted.
Hmm I was starting to see that romance and just a simple hi how are you were apparently old fashion?
I kid you not I felt like a porn star must feel when she goes out in public like a piece of meat
or just that I was only there for sex. It really made me mad. I decide to try elsewhere I had
Many choices there was websites I could pay to browse photos and find love but not my thing,
single parents websites but I really don't want to deal with other people children I can go to
Work for that. there was Christian dating websites where god brings you together...Hmm
Has god read some of these ads because I think he would not approve. I was going to
Give up and go the desperate route and post a ad on craigslist but the thought of all the serial
Killers and psychos out there reading my ad put a stop to that thought. it was getting late and
I was pretty tired of searching dating websites besides pretty much all the profiles should of
Said just looking for a fast fuck or even better if your a slut I 'm your man. I have gotten some
wired emails from some guys,I got a email from lationboy66 who seemed innocent enough at
first but then wanted to know if before we met he could get selfies of every inch of my body to
Make sure I looked in top shape before we went out on a date. Next please. even better was the
email from sunsets76 who just wanted to clarify how long as a single mom had I gone without
Sex Wow how's that for a charming getting to know you question. O but the one that takes the
cake is urstruly2020 yep he was a real class act he wanted to know when we went on a date if I
would be down to go watch girls mud wrestling and after that we hit up a 420 foam party.
Will what girl wouldn't want that date dammit!! yeah I told him where he could go.
And as you could imagine I was done by this point and frustrated and really just wishing for a
cheesy Disney prince charming. I still have my profile up and I have yet to meet up with any
guys but I am hopeful I think that there is a decent guy out there. but before I go on a date I
Feel like I should come with a disclaimer and the first rule would be I am not inviting you to
Stay over I have a daughter and I am not about to put her in danger and besides that I am not
A one night stand girl you wanna get it I going to make you work to get it because I have been
Waiting a long time and you need to prove your worth me giving it up to. Second I have a child
to raise so she comes always first then you not the other way around. I don't need you to be a
Father she has one, I don't need you to take care of me I do that all by myself, I don't need your
Money have my own may not be a lot but I somehow manage. I don't need you to assume
Because I am a single mom I am sad and lonely and please please for the love god do not
assume I need sex and you are the answer to my prayers because 1. they make all kinds
Of cool sex toys now days and really If I was that damn horny and desperate I am pretty sure I
could find a willing guy to have sex with, But since I have morals and class I don't.
Now that we have all that out of the way you can now proceed to ask me on a date.
But back to reality I am actually not ready to date I mean I have not dated in so long I am
Afraid I have forgotten how to even act ,what to do and so on. The whole thought of dating
Really makes me nervous and how the hell do I even answer the question"so tell me about
Yourself? You mean the person I am when I am not being a single mom? Hmm I honestly
Don't remember her pretty much everything centers around my daughter.
How about the person I was when before my husband cheated? I don't like her very much she
Was a coward and the life was being sucked out of her.
After my husband cheated on me? I like that girl she is kick ass and tougher than she thought.
And what do I say to the dread Question What do you do for fun? Um does birthday parties
And going to chuck e cheese count? O that is really a sad answer I need to work on that.
Great I sucked at answering questions . Man I needed a cheat sheet with me so someone could
Write down clever witty things for me to say. I am a mess and I have not even been on a date
Yet. I am not going to give up I have faith that I will find someone when the time is right.
I just hope it is before I am old and lonely and turn into the crazy dog lady No cats for me!!
So friends have any of you tried online dating? and if your a single mom have you found it is
harder to get back into dating? Have you ever got a crazy email? please feel free to share
With me or just comment. And as always thank you reading blog I appreciate it!!
It gives me hope that someone out there is reading what I blog and cares.
.
